What is adaptability?
In short, adaptability is the skill of “going with the flow” - but in reality, it is so much more than that. This word encompasses flexibility, persistence, self-reflection, and the ability to pivot. Adapting isn’t just being comfortable with the unpredictable. It implies an ability to change oneself to fit the circumstances. It also implies the ability to do so without carrying along the emotional weight that often pops up.
How do we use it in theatre?
Theatre is an inherently unpredictable artform. Yes, tons of rehearsal goes in, and ideally we know just what will happen on stage when the time comes. But the reality is, every single performance has its own nuance and every audience brings its own influence onto the show. Actors must adapt to whatever comes their way. Designers are constantly adapting to changing circumstances - whether of budget, vision, or practicalities.
Why is it important in life?
“I have always been prepared for every moment of my life” said no one, ever. We all have moments (sometimes MANY of them in one day) where things don’t go according to plan. A street is closed on the way to work, our boss has changed the nature of the presentation 5 minutes before the meeting, we realize the ingredients we need for dinner are missing… If we can not only cope in these moments, but adapt, we will excel. We will stand out as someone to trust and rely on. We will be better prepared for the next hiccup life throws at us. In order to develop this skill, we have to contend with the emotions that come up when we come face to face with unexpected change. Physiologically speaking, fear and excitement are incredibly similar. When we suddenly find our adrenaline pumping, heart racing, butterflies in our stomach… our brains jump in and decide: are we in danger or not? Our brains tend to default to “Yes! Danger! Run!” because that is what has kept us safe for millennia. But the reality is way more likely to be “no danger - just excitement.” If we can rewire our brains to slow the “danger” response and interpret those physiological cues as excitement, we will be better positioned to respond and adapt. “I’m not scared, I’m excited” is a great go-to stage-fright mantra!
How can I bring this skill home?
Finding opportunities for your child to practice adaptability can be hard as parents. Our instinct is to make their lives easier (most of the time…), to help them learn from our own missteps. But there are fun ways to encourage adaptability, too. Here are some suggestions for each age:
Tots and Pre-K: If you always sit in the same places at dinner, suggest switching it up and then be with them as they process the feelings that it raises.
Elementary School: Re-make their bed the opposite way one day (with their pillow at the foot), and help them reflect on their own reactions (is it fun and exciting? Confusing? Scary? A little bit of everything?)
Middle School: Challenge them to go 6 hours without a phone or computer (you may need to offer an incentive for this one…. 😒)
High School: Drop them somewhere around town with just a bus map (and phone for emergencies) and see if they can get themselves home.
